oh my God, it was so bad during my first years in business. It lasted almost seven years. I constantly softened my voice, edited my truth, and tried to make everything sound more likable for others. But everything started shifting when I really began working on myself and diving into my astrology chart. I explored where that people-pleasing tendency came from, and it was deep😅
For the last six months, I’ve been more bold, more authentic, more direct -no people pleasing, no unnecessary softness. And honestly, it feels so freaking good to speak my truth without wrapping it up in a ball of kindness just to make it easier for others to receive.
Reading your post just confirms everything I’ve been feeling. I used to rewrite all my captions and texts to sound more gentle and kind, and what happened? I attracted the exact opposite of the clients I wanted to work with. It became such a drain.
So I learned the lesson. Now, I lead with clarity and truth.
Thank you so much for sharing this, it really hit home for me and validated the shift I’ve been making!🦋❤️
Glad you found the confirmation here! This shift from Helper to Activator is the key positioning shift that attracts premium clients + as you realized—it feels authentic when the filter is gone.
You get all the benefits and 0 downsides really. Good that you did the inner work to shift it 👏
I used to be such a people pleaser!
oh my God, it was so bad during my first years in business. It lasted almost seven years. I constantly softened my voice, edited my truth, and tried to make everything sound more likable for others. But everything started shifting when I really began working on myself and diving into my astrology chart. I explored where that people-pleasing tendency came from, and it was deep😅
For the last six months, I’ve been more bold, more authentic, more direct -no people pleasing, no unnecessary softness. And honestly, it feels so freaking good to speak my truth without wrapping it up in a ball of kindness just to make it easier for others to receive.
Reading your post just confirms everything I’ve been feeling. I used to rewrite all my captions and texts to sound more gentle and kind, and what happened? I attracted the exact opposite of the clients I wanted to work with. It became such a drain.
So I learned the lesson. Now, I lead with clarity and truth.
Thank you so much for sharing this, it really hit home for me and validated the shift I’ve been making!🦋❤️
Glad you found the confirmation here! This shift from Helper to Activator is the key positioning shift that attracts premium clients + as you realized—it feels authentic when the filter is gone.
You get all the benefits and 0 downsides really. Good that you did the inner work to shift it 👏
Yes the inner work was defently needed to overcome this!♥